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Use case

Set one reminder for a group of people

One reminder, into the group once, and personally for whoever taps. The people who already did the thing are left alone — which is the whole difference between a reminder and nagging.

You put the reminder in the group chat you already use, and anyone who also wants it personally taps once under it. Nexy then reminds only the people who still have to act, stops for each person the moment they are done, and tells the group when the last one is in — no app, no account, nothing for the others to set up.

What it looks like

One message into the group, one optional tap, and from then on only the people who still have something to do hear from it.

How to do it

  1. Say in plain words who it is for and what has to happen — “remind the five-a-side group to pay before Friday” is enough. There is no group to create first.
  2. Pick the moment you could still act on it. For something on Saturday that usually means Friday evening, not Saturday morning.
  3. Nexy posts one message in the chat you already share, with a single tap underneath for anyone who wants the reminder personally as well.
  4. Anyone who has already done the thing says so, and that person stops hearing about it — permanently, while the thread carries on for the rest.
  5. When the last one is in, Nexy says so out loud in the group, so the thread ends instead of quietly dying.

Why it works

Nobody installs anythingThe other people get a normal message in a chat they already read. No download, no account, no login. That is the only reason a group reminder actually reaches everybody.
One tap is the whole onboardingTapping “remind me too” is how somebody steps in. They did not sign up for anything, and the next time it is already easy.
Done means left aloneA reminder that keeps arriving after you have acted is why groups mute reminders. Here, done is permanent for that person.
It asks, it does not assignNexy never decides which of you does it. An unclaimed thing stays visible to everyone instead of landing on whoever feels worst about it.
The thread endsOne agreement per thread, so there is a moment where it is finished and everybody hears that it is.

Where it stops

These limits are deliberate. They are the reason people keep using it rather than muting it.

It will not pick a personIf nobody claims the task, Nexy says that nobody has claimed it. It does not volunteer your brother.
It will not chase strangersIt reminds the people in the thread. It does not go looking for somebody's number elsewhere.
No reminder after the factOnce something is done it is done. There is no setting to make it keep asking, because that setting would get used.
Not a project boardOne thing per thread. Fifteen sub-tasks with owners and deadlines is a different tool, and a worse one for this.

Questions people ask

How do I set a reminder that goes to several people at once instead of just me?

Say who it is for and what has to happen, in ordinary words — “remind the parents in the class group to return the forms before Friday”. Nexy writes one message into the chat you already share with those people, with a single tap under it for anyone who also wants it personally. You do not create a group, invite anybody, or install an app, and neither do they.

Does everyone in the group need the app for a shared reminder to work?

No, and this is the point. The reminder arrives as a normal message in the chat the group already uses, so nobody downloads anything or makes an account. If one person wants the reminder on their own phone as well, they tap once under that message and they get it. Everyone else is reached whether or not they ever tap.

What happens if somebody has already done the thing before the reminder goes out?

They say so, once, and that person stops hearing about it — for good, not until tomorrow. The thread keeps running for the people who still have something to do. A reminder that keeps arriving after you have acted is the single fastest way to get a group to mute it, so it does not happen.

Is this different from a shared to-do list or a shared calendar?

Yes, in the direction things move. A shared list waits to be looked at and a shared calendar has to be accepted first, which means both only work for the people who already opted in. A shared reminder does the asking: it puts the thing in front of the right people at a moment they can still act, and it closes itself when the thing is done.

When exactly does the reminder arrive?

At the moment you could still do something about it, which is almost never the moment of the event itself. For something on Saturday morning that means Friday evening, when you can still buy the thing or put it by the door. You can name a time yourself, but if you do not, that is the rule it uses.

Can I use a shared reminder for a club, a team or a whole street rather than a family?

Yes. The size of the group does not change how it works, only how many people the unclaimed items are visible to. Clubs and teams tend to use it for subs, kit and who is bringing the gear; streets use it for bins, gritting and shared bookings. Nothing is assigned, everything is claimed.

What stops this from becoming nagging?

Two rules that are not settings. It never asks for something that has already happened, and it never asks a person who has nothing left to do. Because they are not settings, nobody can configure them wrong, which is why a group keeps the thread alive instead of muting it.

How does the group find out it is finished?

Nexy says it, in the group, once. A thread holds exactly one agreement, so there is a real moment where that agreement is met, and announcing it is what stops people checking in with each other to ask whether it got done.

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