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Use case

Agree who submits final headcount for catering order

Someone needs to collect attendance confirmations and give the caterer a final number before their cut-off time. The person doing this needs to know the deadline, how to reach the caterer, and what to do if responses arrive late.

Use one Nexy thread for one agreement: One person will count confirmed attendees and submit the headcount to the caterer by the agreed deadline. The other person receives a message in the chat they already use, without installing anything or creating an account; reminders stop for a task that is already done.

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What it looks like

An example of people making one clear agreement and confirming when it is done.

How to do it

  1. Start one Nexy thread for the agreement. Agree who will gather responses and contact the caterer, making sure they know the caterer's deadline and contact details.
  2. Decide the cut-off time for collecting responses—usually a few hours before the caterer's deadline to allow time for counting and calling. The other person receives a message in the chat they already use and needs no new account.
  3. Confirm what counts as a firm yes: whether maybes are included, whether plus-ones need separate confirmation, and how dietary requirements are passed on.
  4. Agree what happens if late responses arrive after the order is placed—whether to call back with adjustments or set firm boundaries. A reminder is most useful while you could still act, usually the evening before.
  5. Check back after the deadline that the order was placed, what number was given, and whether the caterer confirmed the booking. Once the task is done, there are no more reminders for that completed task.

Why it works

One clear agreementOne agreement per thread keeps this specific commitment separate from the rest of the conversation.
People choose the ownerAn unclaimed task is announced to the whole group. Nexy does not choose a person or assign it for you.
Done means no remindersA person who has already completed the task is left alone. Finishing is different from receiving another reminder.

Where it stops

Keep the agreement narrow and let the people involved make the decisions.

One agreement per threadUse this thread for the specific agreement, rather than treating it as an entire project.
No automatic assignmentNexy announces unclaimed tasks to the group; the people decide who will act.
No reminders after doneCompleted tasks are not a reason to keep reminding someone.

Questions people ask

Who should be responsible for submitting the headcount?

Choose someone who will be available in the hours before the deadline and comfortable making the call. This might be the event organiser, someone handling other venue arrangements, or whoever has the most complete picture of expected attendance. The key requirement is that they can chase missing responses and make a firm decision if some people have not replied by the cut-off time. Avoid splitting the task between multiple people, because the caterer needs one clear number from one contact.

How early before the caterer's deadline should we collect responses?

Set your internal cut-off at least two to four hours before the caterer's deadline. This gives time to count responses, chase anyone who has not replied, make a decision about uncertain attendees, and place the call without rushing. If your group is slow to respond or the caterer requires written confirmation by email, allow even more time. Remember that the person submitting the order may need to look up dietary requirements or answer questions from the caterer about the menu or delivery arrangements.

What if people confirm attendance after the order is placed?

Decide beforehand whether late confirmations will trigger a follow-up call to increase the order, or whether you will simply tell latecomers the numbers are final. Most caterers allow small increases if you call quickly, but some charge extra or cannot accommodate changes close to the event. Agree a boundary—such as no changes after Thursday evening—and communicate it clearly when you first ask people to confirm. The person placing the order should know whether they have permission to adjust numbers without checking back with the group.

Should we include people who said maybe in the headcount?

Agree this before collecting responses. Some groups count maybes as half a person and round up; others exclude them entirely and ask for a firm yes or no by the deadline. The safest approach is to ask uncertain attendees to commit one way or the other by your internal cut-off, then order for confirmed yeses only. If you do include estimates for maybes, tell the caterer clearly which part of the number is firm and which is provisional, so they can advise on flexibility or minimum guarantees.

How should we pass dietary requirements to the caterer?

The person placing the order should have a clear list of any allergies, intolerances, or specific meal requests collected alongside the headcount. Agree whether this information is gathered in the same conversation as the attendance confirmation or separately. When calling the caterer, give the total number first, then explain how many need vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, or other options. If requirements are complex or numerous, consider sending a written summary by email immediately after the phone call to avoid any misunderstanding about quantities or restrictions.

What if the person responsible forgets or cannot reach the caterer?

Agree a backup plan when you first assign the task. This might mean sharing the caterer's contact details with a second person who can step in, or setting a reminder to check in an hour before the deadline if the order has not been confirmed. If the responsible person knows they might be unavailable—for example, in a meeting or travelling—they should hand over early or ask someone else to take the task. The group should know who is handling it so they can follow up if they hear nothing.

Should we tell the caterer we might adjust numbers later?

Only if the caterer explicitly allows it and you have confirmed their policy on late changes. Many caterers require final numbers to be genuinely final, especially within twenty-four or forty-eight hours of the event. Asking to keep options open can cause confusion or lead to higher charges. If you genuinely expect a few extra attendees but need to order early, ask the caterer directly whether you can increase by a small number if you call back within a certain window, and get clear agreement on any cost or notice implications before committing.

What counts as confirmation that the order is placed?

The person who called the caterer should report back to the group with the number ordered, any special requirements confirmed, and any reference number, delivery time, or collection details the caterer provided. If the caterer sends written confirmation by email or text, share that with at least one other organiser. Completion means the caterer acknowledged the order and the person placing it is confident the food will arrive as expected. If anything was unclear during the call, that uncertainty should be raised immediately so someone can follow up before the event.

Do this with Nexy

Start free on the web. Tell Nexy what the two of you agreed on and it takes it from there: it asks, reminds whoever still has to act, and tells everyone when it is done.

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